Married vs. Single?

People sometimes said to me, "Izzah, Jelesnye tgk kau...dh kawen, dh ade anak" and sort of.

Yes, I'm happy with my life now, with a loving husband, Imran Tuan Yaacob and my precious little boy, Ilyas. Alhamdulillah~ All praise to Allah.

However, the truth is, I have less time for myself, less flexibility.

I can’t go out with my friend whenever I want.

I can’t spend my money to go to programs or additional classesas much as I wish.

I can’t sleep over at friend’s house.

It’s hard to travel for days with only friends.

When I got home, most of my time is spent on my son.

I am not complaining.

I know those are how life would be after you got married.

What I am saying is what Allah gave us is according to our condition and ability.

If you are getting or got married, adapt, be more mature, learn the science and art or marriage, give and take, don’t forget to socialize with friends and society, and try to do your best to please Allah.

And if you are single, you have more time and flexibility to get involve in charity and volunteering, benefiting programs/talk/conference, cooking/baking/sewing/business classes, outdoor activities, quality time with family and friends, and many more.

If we want to compare the pros and cons of life before and after marriage, it won’t end.

Be happy, be thankful, do everything you can do now.

The most important is, read more, gain more knowledge, not to be showed off but to be internalized.

May Allah helps us and guide us in everything we do. InsyaAllah.